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God’s Love Song:: “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” by Chicago

31 Aug

It was not until “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” by Chicago started playing on the radio that I felt the darkness flooding my world start to lift.  As I absently sang along on my drive home from Hobby Lobby, the words never seemed so clear.  I wasn’t breaking up with a person; I was breaking up with my church.

And I confused that with breaking up with the Church and with God; neither of which I was kicking to the curb.

In case you’ve never heard Chicago’s “Hard to Say I’m Sorry” (Shame on you!), I’ve included an incredibly retro video here, which makes me laugh and sort of ruins the seriousness of this post::

“Hold me now, I really want to tell you I’m sorry, I can never let go…”

The lyrics rang through my head and I started crying.  Not just because it’s hard to say “I’m sorry,” not because my now ex-church didn’t say “I’m sorry,” but because I felt God saying “I’m sorry.” He wasn’t sorry for something *He* did being flawless and perfect; He was sorry for what happened to me, for the pain I felt.  I felt a gentle whisper in my soul, “It’s hard for them to say I’m sorry, but I’m so sorry.  I feel your pain and I’m holding Your broken heart in My hands.”

“I couldn’t stand to be kept away, just for the day, from your body…”

Clearly, Peter Cetera and the gang had different intentions for this lyric, but I thought about the Body of Christ and how the Church has been supporting me during my recent disappointment with my break-up from church.  And how the Church will support me as I seek out a new church home because God made it clear I should not stay.

It seems silly that a Chicago song could stir such revelation, such a knowing of God’s love, but then again, whenever I see a hawk, I also hear God whispering, “I love you.  I see you.” Being the Lord of all creation, I suppose He has a right to communicate His message however He sees fit—through the Bible or from an 80’s song about how it’s hard to apologize.

The Fold Asks Listeners To Stare Future In the Face Through Unique Contest

14 Oct



That’s the question THE FOLD is asking listeners to answer through artwork, YouTube videos, and Twitter messages, posted on a special website–DEARFUTURECOMEGETME.COM.  While the “Dear Future” project may become an entity in its own right, for now, the band is running a contest, which concludes at the end of November.

It’s also a question the band has asked itself since deciding to leave their record label and become an independent band.  The melodic rockers’ new album, DEAR FUTURE, COME GET ME, which released on Oct. 6 marks the band’s first independent release.  I should also disclose that I am working with THE FOLD in crafting their online press kit.

Because it is such a creative project, I decided to give the future a little message of my own (see below).  While I don’t want to win a grand prize, I do what my art to become highly rated, so please go here and give me 5 out of 5 stars for a job well done.  (Just staring at it here on Backseat Writer won’t get me votes, so go to this site! Plus, the image on the site is WAY BIGGER!)

And while you’re at it, why don’t you send a little message to the future. Not only is it cathartic (and possibly healing), you can win great prizes, too!

Amy’s Note:: I was talking to my Mom on the phone and I asked her, “Mom, if you could tell the future something, what would it be?”  She paused a moment, then thoughtfully answered, “God is the same today, yesterday, and forever.”  She went on to talk about how every knee will bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is Lord.  But I thought, “Wow, Mom, you’re amazing!”  Wouldn’t it be hilarious if my Mom won?

Restraining Orders Are A Joke

22 Apr

Not only are restraining orders extremely hard to obtain, they’re fairly useless. Sure, if the person being restrained violates the order he or she can be carted off the jail (more likely, slapped on the wrist), but that’s once the police get there. And when a woman is being beat or attacked, two minutes can be a long time to wait for police to arrive (no, I’m not being sexist. Statistically, women are more likely to get restraining orders).

Take the case of 30 year-old Sophia Garcia, a Chicago woman who was found dead in her home Monday evening. A bag over her head, Sophia spent the last moments of her life gasping for air. Sophia’s three children (ages 6-11) are missing, alleged taken by their father, Benito Casanova. Despite the order of protection granted to Sophia and her children in 2006 and again in February 2007 (which extended until March 2009), Sophia’s cold, dead body is lying in a Chicago-area morgue and her children’s faces are plastered everywhere thanks to the Amber Alert system (full story).

According to an article in the Chicagon Sun-Times, Sophia told police time and again that Casanova allegedly threatened to kill her. The article also states the the order of protection granted to Sophia was lifted because she missed a court day scheduled for last month giving Casanova the perfect chance to go after his prey (allegedly). Of course, if she had made her court date, this could have all been avoided, right? Probably not. Eventually, Casanova was going to make good on his promise–he was going to kill Sophia (allegedly). A piece of paper would have allowed Sophia a bit of protection, but really if the guy tried to strangle her, what could she do? Give him a paper cut? The guy is 6’1″ and weights 230 pounds–my guess is that he could easily have overpowered Sophia.

At least a restraining order gave Sophia legal protection as well as proof that Casanova was violent in the past. But it wasn’t enough to save her life, not when it really counted. Who knows why she didn’t appear in court that day? Perhaps she had to work (she was a single mother of three!) or maybe she was threatened or maybe she forgot. Whatever the reason, Sophia Garcia didn’t deserve to fie–not at 30 years of age, not with a bag over her head, not at the hands of her estranged husband, and not because the system failed her.

The truth is that restraining orders, even when in effect, offer false protection. A piece of paper isn’t an armed guard or a gun or a pit bull; it just states the obvious–violent people are violent and dangerous. It says that women and children should not endure the abuse given to them by a husband and father. It states what we all know to be true; this type of behavior is deplorable, unexcusable, and disgusting. But it can’t do what it’s supposed to–actually protect victims from abuse.

Flavor Your Youth Ministry With Ginger

12 Jan

Ginger Sinsabaugh MacDonald is one of my favorite people in the world. Smart, sassy, motivated, and creative, Ginger has chosen to use her marketing, writing, and public relations super powers for good, not evil. When she’s not coming up with massive advertising campaigns for billion dollar junk food empires (like Mccy D’s), Ginger spends her time reaching out to teenagers on the streets in some of Chicago’s toughest neighborhoods.

Instead of keeping her experiences and talents to herself, Ginger has created an amazing website called TastyFaith which offers a ton of resources developed by Ginger for youth workers. Her resources are geared to those who work in urban ministry, but are valuable for a variety of situations that fly in the face of culture, race, and class.

For example, Life After Birth is a Bible study that Ginger created specifically for teen moms (download a sample of the study here). She outlines various women of the Bible who have been moms, most in highly unlikely or unfortunate circumstances. She may even be sending a copy of the book to Jamie Lynn Spears (Just kidding! But it’s not a bad idea).

Tasty Faith is one of the best resource sites out there. Plus, Ginger run the whole operation making corporate America’s involvement in her work obsolete. By calling the shots, Ginger can ensure that her material is fresh, straight-talking, and soul rocking. If you have not clicked on the Tasty Faith link yet, do it now.

If you have any questions for Ginger about Tasty Faith or want to bring her in to do one of her dynamite seminars, shoot her an e-mail at info@tastyfaith.com. You will be just as enchanted by Ginger as I am.

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