Why is Backseat Writer in Limited Publication?

4 Jun

It’s a question I’ve been asked by many.  Here is a brief and truthful answer.  I am sorry it is not as complete as I would like.

The day my mom came to her senses, I thought I would feel good.  Finally, the abuse I suffered at the hands of her husband, my stepfather, would come to light and I would feel justified.  However, when the events did come to light, I felt nothing.  Absolutely nothing.  And then I thought I would never stop crying.  This is how the story begins.

I never liked the man my mom married, yet some part of me held onto the hope that he would become the father figure I so desperately need.  He never did.  Instead, he used his power to manipulate, destroy, and break apart my family, particularly my relationship with my mom.  While I don’t want to delve into specifics, let me just say this—my step dad is a violent and abusive man.

The break-down of my mom’s marriage started in March, while my family was undergoing other trials, including bad news about various health conditions.  After years of abuse and much prayer, my mom left her husband in April and has been staying at my apartment with my roommate and me.  She will move into her own apartment later this month.

Because I’m an only child, I made the decision to assist my mom during her difficult time as we dealt with harassment from my mom’s husband and his family, lawyer visits, late night talks, and feelings of hopelessness.  Yet through it all, God was strong when we felt weak.  Still, the sting of divorce is felt by all, even by the parties who are not divorcing.

I never said goodbye to my 3 year-old step niece, who was the sunshine of my life.  I thank God for the time I spent with her.  I am now unable to walk through the children’s clothing department at Target without starting to cry.  It is a difficult journey indeed.

The stress of it all—adding another person and a dog temporarily to my two bedroom apartment—has taken its toll on me physically, emotionally, and even spiritually.  I am used to quiet—not the background noise from a TV that never seems to turn off.  My nerves are shot, causing me to be depressed, anxious, and unable to focus.  Of course, all that compounded with medical conditions already present cause malaise and physical pain.

Fortunately, things are looking up as the divorce moves forward, the property settlement has been signed, and my mom is preparing to move into her new apartment.  We have all been able to find God’s peace, despite the madness.  I have been told that what I am feeling about everything is normal.

So, dear friends, this is an incredibly abbreviated version of why Backseat Writer has been put on hiatus.  As the middle of June approaches, I hope to continue to provide amazing articles and insights for you all.  Today I just wanted to let you glimpse into my current reality.  Thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement.

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No Responses to “Why is Backseat Writer in Limited Publication?”

  1. Dale June 4, 2010 at 10:32 AM #

    Praying for you Amy.

  2. Jasper June 4, 2010 at 10:48 AM #

    Praying for you my dear friend.

  3. FionaChan June 4, 2010 at 12:19 PM #

    good luck with everything!

  4. Belinda June 4, 2010 at 12:33 PM #

    Amy,

    I never realized that you were dealing with all of this. Mental and physical abuse is a terrible thing to be subject to…and I know the scars of the mental/emotional abuse last long after the physical wounds have healed. I was in an abusive relationship for several years and can happily say there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m not a victim anymore and I pray you and your mother will find healing in the months and years to come. 🙂

  5. Richard June 4, 2010 at 1:33 PM #

    Hey Amy,

    Thanks for sharing this here. It’s brave of you do it.

    I’m praying for you and your mother.

  6. Matthew June 4, 2010 at 3:18 PM #

    It’s heartbreaking to hear of how you both have struggled but in my experience, I have grown the most during times of trial. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a blessing to live during times of peace and happiness, but look for joy now – more than ever. Lean on those close to you for support and know that God is ever-present and faithful to His children.

    – blessings of peace and comfort –

  7. Christy June 4, 2010 at 3:25 PM #

    Amy,

    So sorry to hear of all that you’ve been going through lately. That’s tough! But it’s encouraging to see how you all are depending on God more than ever to get you through this challenging and difficult time. I’ll be praying for you!

    Christy

  8. Mary Haub... June 4, 2010 at 3:49 PM #

    love. lots of it. your way. move to nashville, chica, we’re waiting for ya 🙂

  9. Amy June 4, 2010 at 4:41 PM #

    Thank you for all your comments and prayers and encouragement! 🙂 Since I always want my interviewees to be transparent, I thought I should do the same. I would have for everyone to think I had it all together. 🙂

  10. ShariCakes June 6, 2010 at 4:37 PM #

    It has been a long road and it has been a rough one. When you feel like giving up something keeps you going. Prayer….prayer…prayer. I have been feeling much of the same lately too. Keep me posted and I will be available “when I am not caking’.

  11. Rachel Randolph June 22, 2010 at 7:09 PM #

    Amy,

    I went through a similar situation with my nephew when my brother & his wife divorced. For months, even on his birthday, my former sis-in-law cut our whole family off from this sweet boy’s life. It was awful–we had never been anything but loving toward her or my nephew. Divorce does crazy things to people. But I do want you to know that it has gotten better and with time those relationships have healed. In fact, I talked to my nephew and his mom on the phone just last night. I pray that outcome for you, too.

    Rachel

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