Maybe men really are from Mars…
I was telling my friend, Jen, about how ridiculous I am when it comes to relationships with guys. My feelings always get hurt because I misinterpret the actions of the men in my life. Being an only child and a survivor of childhood abuse, I’ve been pretty clueless for many years on the opposite sex. While I’ve been able to open up to my guy friends and father-like figures, I sometimes get it really, really wrong. If you’re like me, you’ll find what my friend Jen told me to be helpful.
“1. Guys are not nearly as complicated as we women make them out to be. Guys are simple; it’s us that complicate things.”
“2. Guys think differently about things than women do. You talk to a guy for 3 hours, you hang up & rehash every word. The guy hangs up & thinks about what’s for supper.”
“3. Taking that into consideration, guys are basically straightforward & very short-term memory, he’s probably clueless that you’re waiting to hear back or he just forgot to call.”
This is great advice because as a woman I tend to complicate EVERYTHING, rehash every conversation to make sure I said the right stuff (transcribing interviews is the worst), and I think guys are as analytical as me. Then I realize how ridiculous I am and it dawns on me–maybe this is why I’m not married! I’m neurotic!
When I said this to Jen she told me to join the club, adding, “ We’d have meetings, but when we cancel the other members think it’s because we’re avoiding them.” I can be a pretty straight shooter, except when it comes to my personal relationships…oh, gosh, to be a woman!